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People only risk something better when they feel safe enough to be curious about themselves. My job is to walk alongside you while you take that risk. Everything I do in session, from how I listen to how honest I am with you, is meant to build that safety first.

Old patterns, even painful ones, can feel familiar and safe.

About Seeking Solutions Therapy

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Hello

I'm Lauren

My journey began in Florida, where I earned my Bachelor of Social Work from the University of Central Florida, along with a minor in Psychology and a certificate in Children’s Services. I went on to earn my Master of Social Work from Florida State University.

After graduating, I moved across the country to California and completed my hours toward licensure. I spent most of my career meeting clients in their own homes and that work shaped everything about how I practice today. I’m now a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in California and Washington.

When I opened my own practice, I wanted to build an office that offered the same comfort and safety my clients felt at home. Today, I’m dedicated to supporting teens and young adults through some of life’s hardest moments. Whether you or your child is facing anxiety, depression, or safety concerns, I provide a calm, experienced presence for clients and their families.

My style is direct and real, and I combine honest connection with evidence-based strategies so clients feel both understood and equipped to grow. Many of my clients come to me after therapy didn’t click somewhere else and I work hard to make this a space that feels like theirs.

Florida will always be part of my story but the West Coast has become home. I love the mix of mountains and ocean, the cooler weather, and how easy it is to get outside any time of year. In my free time, you’ll usually find me with my dog, Frankie, reading a good thriller, spending time with family and friends, or cheering on the San Francisco 49ers.

SHE/HER/HERS

I focus on slowing the conversation down so that each person can say what they've been trying to say and hear what the others mean. We work on the pattern that keeps you stuck, where one person pushes and the other pulls away, so no one in the room has to be the problem. In session I don't take sides or decide who is right, and I'll be direct with all of you about what I'm noticing. I spent most of my career working with families in their own homes, so what we practice is meant to hold up at the dinner table and in the car, and not only in my office.

Family therapy

I know what it's like to sit across from a therapist, feel like it isn't working, and quietly think that means something is wrong with you. So when a client tells me "therapy doesn't work for me," I take it seriously, because the fix is often finding a space where you understand what therapy is for and feel like it's yours. We focus on the anxiety, self-doubt, and relationship patterns that keep repeating, and I'm flexible about how we get there, whether that's talking it through or working side by side on something with our hands busy. I want you to be able to ask for what you need, because that is what makes therapy fit.

Young adult therapy

Many of the teens I work with have already seen a therapist (or a few), never quite clicked, and walked away believing they were the problem. They weren't; often it was fit, so I focus first on building a relationship that feels safe, useful, and theirs. Sometimes that means the work looks different than you'd imagine: some of my most meaningful sessions have started with a teen asking if we could do a puzzle instead, because sitting side by side with busy hands, practicing a healthy way to cope, was exactly the work. I want my clients to feel they can ask for what they need, and I treat that as what makes therapy fit, not a detour from it.

Teen therapy

My Therapy Services

Many of the teens I work with have already seen a therapist (or a few), never quite clicked, and walked away believing they were the problem. They weren't; often it was fit, so I focus first on building a relationship that feels safe, useful, and theirs. Sometimes that means the work looks different than you'd imagine: some of my most meaningful sessions have started with a teen asking if we could do a puzzle instead, because sitting side by side with busy hands, practicing a healthy way to cope, was exactly the work. I want my clients to feel they can ask for what they need, and I treat that as what makes therapy fit, not a detour from it.

Teen therapy

My Therapy Services

Teenage girl sitting quietly and looking down, representing teen therapy in Los Gatos

I know what it's like to sit across from a therapist, feel like it isn't working, and quietly think that means something is wrong with you. So when a client tells me "therapy doesn't work for me," I take it seriously, because the fix is often finding a space where you understand what therapy is for and feel like it's yours. We focus on the anxiety, self-doubt, and relationship patterns that keep repeating, and I'm flexible about how we get there, whether that's talking it through or working side by side on something with our hands busy. I want you to be able to ask for what you need, because that is what makes therapy fit.

Young adult Therapy

Young adult woman with curly hair looking down at her phone, deep in thought

I focus on slowing the conversation down so that each person can say what they've been trying to say and hear what the others mean. We work on the pattern that keeps you stuck, where one person pushes and the other pulls away, so no one in the room has to be the problem. In session I don't take sides or decide who is right, and I'll be direct with all of you about what I'm noticing. I spent most of my career working with families in their own homes, so what we practice is meant to hold up at the dinner table and in the car, and not only in my office.

Family therapy

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A Relationship That Comes First 

Before we get into the hard things, we'll take the time to get to know each other, because nothing works until you trust the person across from you.

Room to Ask for What You Need

If something about our sessions isn't working, you can tell me and we'll change it together.

Honesty Without Judgment

I don't do therapy from behind a clipboard, so you'll know what I think, including the things that are harder to hear, and you'll never be made to feel like the problem.

No Pressure to Perform

You don't have to show up with the right words or a plan, because I'll meet you wherever you are that day.

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What You can Expect

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Trust is built by showing up, session after session.

Consistency

Trust builds at your pace, not mine.

Patience

You can bring the hardest things into the room, and I'll stay steady.

Safety

How we relate to each other is at the center of the work, because relationships are where we get hurt and where we heal.

Connection

Seeking Solutions Therapy letter board on a desk with a clock, plant, and corgi figurine
Lauren Onderko sitting on a couch with her corgi Frankie in her Los Gatos office

They never quite clicked with any of them, didn't feel relief, and walked away believing they were the problem. They weren't, and neither are you. More often it was a matter of fit, and the relationship never had the chance to become the safe, useful space it's supposed to be. I take the belief that 'therapy doesn't work for me' seriously, because the fix is often finding a space where you understand what therapy is for and feel like it's yours. Sometimes that means the work looks different than you imagined. Some of my most meaningful sessions have been the ones where a client asked if we could do a puzzle together. They weren't avoiding the work. Sitting side by side with busy hands, practicing a healthy way to cope, was the work. I want you to feel like you can ask for what you need here. That isn't a detour from therapy; it's what makes therapy fit.

Many of the clients I work with have seen a therapist or a few before me.

I built this practice around fit and relationship first

I know what it's like to sit across from a therapist, feel like it isn't working, and quietly decide that means something is wrong with you.

For most of my career, I worked in people's homes and out in the community, meeting clients where they were most comfortable. When the pandemic made that impossible, I started Seeking Solutions Therapy in 2020 to create an office that could serve the same purpose: a place that feels comfortable and safe, more like a living room than a clinic. That matters most for the high school and college-age clients I work with, who often arrive after therapy hasn't clicked before and need a space that feels like theirs.

I founded Seeking Solutions Therapy (2020)

In-Home Teen and Family Coach at Teen Therapy Center working with teens,
young adults, and families (2017-2020)

Provided group therapy at Teen Therapy Center for high-risk teens and
young adults diagnosed with anxiety and/or depression (2018-2020)

Program supervisor with Seneca Family of Agencies in their
wraparound program (2015-2017)

Community based therapist with Seneca Family of Agencies working
with teens, young adults, and families (2015-2017)

Facilitated substance abuse groups at Seneca Family of Agencies for teens
utilizing the Seven Challenges harm reduction model (2015-2017)

Community based clinician with Seneca Family of Agencies working with teens involved in the Department of Family and Children Services and living in out-of-home placements (2013-2015)

I have over a decade of experiencing working with clients.

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Reaching out can feel like the hardest part.

The first step is a free 15-minute consultation to talk about what's going on and what you're looking for. There's no commitment and no rush to decide.